barber chair confessions, episode .003

On this episode of Barber Chair Confessions...

On this episode of Barber Chair Confessions, i’d like to introduce an exceptional individual who published a lot of work at a very young age, name Khali Raymond. Khali is a nineteen year old reclusive genius whose serious and realistic writing style puts out riveting and mind capturing work that arouses a lot of people’s interest, from Newark, New Jersey. 



there’s a community out there, and i want to be apart of that community. 

Khali’s love for his city and community is extremely strong. that alone is a primary influence for his work. his continued humbleness, and strong work ethic will carry him to places that the average person can only dream of. a lot of mystery shrouds this genius author, but he is so much more. when you do happen to read Khali’s work, the themes and vocabulary he uses are extremely strong and provocative. 


It has been very rewarding, but at the same time challenging. It required me to step out of my comfort zone to do things that I normally wouldn’t do.
— khali raymond

Khali wrote a collaborative poem with his teammate Kwadjo called haircuts.

Khali Raymond wrote a collaborative poem with his teammate Kwadjo called haircuts, that they performed at the Brave New Voices International Youth Poetry Slam in Houston, Texas. You will be able to see that performance on barber chair confessions, episode .005, so stay tuned. If you want to find out more about Khali, you can follow him on Instagram @__trpyshvt_ . 


I believe that children are our future, teach them well and let them lead the way. 

Whitney Houston said It best “I believe that children are our future, teach them well and let them lead the way.” these next few episodes of barber chair confessions will feature three students from the Newark Poetry Institute Slam Team, who I had the privilege to support, mentor, and lead in some way, shape, or form. these students have taught me so much about love, patience, bravery, and passion, and I am ecstatic to have had the opportunity to have them not only accompany me to my barbershop, but to trust me enough to sit in my barbers chair, and get a haircut. it is my honor to welcome them to this space to share their thoughts, knowledge gained, feelings, and experiences in life, as well as their experience prepping for the brave new voices international youth poetry slam competition in Houston, Texas. 


I went through a lot growing up, but I found writing. i found art and performance, and that helped me get over most of the stuff that I was going through. everything I went through, all the problems that I was facing, none of that mattered once i picked up a pen or got on a stage.
— khali raymond

I felt like all the hard work that went into memorizing and perfecting the poems that I was on, was finally paying off.

Sitting in the barbershop the day before leaving to go to the Brave New Voices International Youth Poetry Slam,  gave me some time to reflect on the journey that was bringing me to Houston that weekend. I felt like all the hard work that went into memorizing and perfecting the poems that I was on, was finally paying off. The barber who cut my hair, also made me right, too. It’s been a while since I had my hair last cut. all in all, earning the opportunity to go to Houston to do what I love really gave me a lot of purpose, and prepared me for future endeavors that are soon to come.
 


after conversing with Khali during his barber chair confession, I had some time to think alone. here are my thoughts during this haircut.

therein lies a tendency to create meaning where only living exists & to create suffering where only feeling exists - remember, you chose this life long before you came in to the ebb & flow of it all. 

      you are aware of the All

you are knowing of the All
you are All and All is you. 

-sabrina cates

this is barber chair confessions  -sabrina cates 


BARBER CHAIR CONFESSIONS, EPISODE .002

IN ALL THINGS NEWARK...

I wanted to engulf myself in all things Newark at first, so I spent some time exploring barbershops downtown, and other neighborhoods, just so I could avoid that 30 min drive to get my haircut.



EQUALS TO THE SAME AMOUNT THOSE NEWARK BARBERS CHARGED.

Now, one might argued that thirty mins driving, plus the cost of the cut equals to the same amount those Newark barbers charged, they’d be right I guess. Still, logically in my mind, I’m still saving, and he’s the only person slaying my cuts the way that he do, so fxck it. After reflecting on that moment, I had some time think. here are my thoughts from yesterday’s haircut. 


I LIVED IN PATERSON FOR TWO YEARS,BEFORE I MOVED TO NEWARK, NJ. 

My barber is in Paterson, NJ. I lived in Paterson for two years, before I moved to Newark, NJ. Both cities are thirty minutes apart from each other, and I drive those thirty minutes faithfully, just to sit in my barbers chair. as I sat in his chair this time around to get my haircut, I began to reflect on what it was like for me, and my hair when i first moved to Newark. I remember the moment I fell in love with living in Newark. 


i remember the moment i fell
in love with living in Newark.


FOR SOME REASON, THEY JUST COULDN'T GET MY HAIR AS SHARP.

Every attempt made with another barber left me feeling cheap and undone. For some reason, they just couldn’t get my hair as sharp. I also didn’t like that they charged $25 for a cut, when I pay a solid $15, tip included in Paterson. I tried those barbers out on & off for about two months, before I finally made the decision to stick to Sia, that’s my barbers name by the way.



dahling, 

your growth is not measured upon how often you succeed while walking your path. all action decided upon and taken has a consequence—some, not always favorable. yet, the word consequence itself means, “that which grows out of ANY act or course".
growth is still yours to claim. 

THIS IS BARBER CHAIR CONFESSIONS -SABRINA CATES


barber chair confessions, episode .001

remember, you’re allowed to screw up

Dahling, remember, you’re allowed to screw up. You’re allowed to be chaotic, naive, afraid, and inflexible. Unpin yourself from underneath the guilt, the shame, and the many moments where you repeated, “I should’ve known better”. own your actions, whether they undermine where you presently stand with yourself or not.



My barber doesn’t speak english...

My barber doesn’t speak english at all, but somehow we manage to communicate well enough for him to slay my haircuts, consistently. I realized that i am faithful to his chair, not just because his razor skills are close to fxcking perfection, but because I am granted 45 minutes to sit with myself in silence and sort through my thoughts, all while being cared for. Here are my thoughts from yesterday’s haircut. ✂️

it is okay. YOU. are. okay.

Give yourself room to be a mess.

Give yourself room to be a mess. Sometimes, we must scatter ourselves in order to truly see what is to be kept for when it’s time to reconstruct.  Every time i get my haircut, I will share the experience, my thoughts,  haircut details, products, exclusive interviews, take a guest to the barber content, and more. 



this is barber chair confessions. -sabrina cates